Once a young player gets a little game, he’s got to ask himself what he wants to get out of his relationships with women. For me, I prefer to have 3 slots on my depth chart.
A – Main Bitch – aka girlfriend. Has most of the attributes I really value in a woman
B – Side Bitch – gets the call when my gf is unavailable to or unable to give me something I want
C – Flavor of the Day – whatever girls I might slide down on at random
Slots (heh) B and C serve at my pleasure and change frequently. Slot A is, although usually vacant (where I revert to a five slot shuffle plan), a little more important, . But for the times when we might want to fill that slot, I wanted to share one of the tools I use to screen a girl when I think she might fit into Slot A.
What’s my favorite food?
Where did I grow up?
Who is my best friend?
Asking a girl basic biographical information about yourself is a quick way to gauge her interest level in you. If she’s into to you, those facts will be important to her. Thus, she will remember them. When someone cares about somebody or something, they can speak extemporaneously on it all night. When they don’t care, they won’t listen when it comes up in the first place. I’ve had girls say they loved me, wanted marriage and a baby but couldn’t answer simple questions about somebody they had talked to regularly for months.
If you know who her favorite musical artist is and she doesn’t know yours. If you know what her parents do for a living, but all she knows is that you do something with cars. Basically, information asymmetry is a red flag that she doesn’t care about you. This test will eliminate 99% of women you think you might date seriously. Most, modern American women are self absorbed to a degree that deserves clinical attention. Moreover, they are taught to love themselves over all things, and they do a damn good job of it.
She either didn’t bother to listen to what you said the first time, never asked, or forgot. These are the same girls who can recite the last three seasons of meaningless drama on the latest housewives show. People take care to remember what they think matters.
Typically, a woman doesn’t care about you. She cares about how you make her feel. In love, as all other dealings with the opposite sex, the male is a utility. A tool to serve the woman. If she doesn’t fail our little quiz, this doesn’t mean she cares. At least not in the way a man cares for a woman. But, it does mean she’s at least investing some effort. Which is a starting point.
Apollo 21 