Unless you’re George Clooney, dealing with women means dealing with flaking on dates and unreturned calls/texts. An ongoing debate I have with myself and in comments sections of a couple blogs has been whether or not to re-initiate after falling out of touch with a girl after a flake.
Previously I’ve held the belief that since you’re not banging her anyway, you have nothing to lose. While watching Suits on USA I had a moment of clarity. The two main characters are discussing whether or not they should attempt to contact an angry client so they can make nice and resume negotiations. The junior lawyer is afraid that the client will take their business elsewhere. The senior partner says the following (IIRC):
If they don’t call, they don’t call. But, if you call, they’ll never respect you and you’ll never get what you want anyway.
Let’s throw out some odds for the sake of pseudo science.
Odds of a girl texting you after a flake: 1 in 10
Odds of that being genuine interest and not just a ping: 1 in 5
Odds of getting an established flake out of the house: 1 in 25
Aggregate odds of closing: 1 in 1250
Odds of a girl wanting a guy who texts her after she blatantly flakes on him: 1 in 10,000
I made those numbers up. But, they’re based on my experience.
This only applies to flakes. For example if your girl has a job where she’s on call (which is almost no women anywhere) or has another legit excuse, she may be hoping you give her a second chance.
The point is you’re better off keeping it moving than rewarding a girls disrespectful behavior with more attention. Your average girl is either to insecure to actually go on a date and/or has more dating options than she can handle. This is partly why the average girl flakes so often. The average guy wasn’t raised a princess and was taught that you keep your word. Additionally he doesn’t have as many dating options. That is partly why your average man tends not to flake.
The good news is, if you’re reading about game, you’re not the average man. And if you’ve got a little game you know that women don’t experience obligations like men so you don’t take it personally when she does flake. You also know that women want the highest caliber of man they can get. So, while sex is typically a buyers market for women, a small minority of men enjoy the setup. You being the international playboy you are, means you are in that minority. So act accordingly.
it’s not easy because on 1 hand you are letting them get away with their rude behavior by not saying anything but on the other hand calling them out on their rudeness makes you look desperate. so you are right, the best thing for us, is to delete their # & move on to the next girl.
An outstanding share! I have just forwarded this
onto a co-worker who has been conducting a little homework on this.
And he actually bought me breakfast simply because I discovered
it for him… lol. So let me reword this….
Thank YOU for the meal!! But yeah, thanks for spending the time to talk about this subject here on your